Created Aug. 30, 2015 updated Sep 2, 2015
Dr. Van Der Kolk on Nonverbal
P. A. Levine Ph.D on Nonverbal
Jax & Hampstead Research (HR)
Love is Nonverbal
Nonverbal vs Satanic Cults
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I write this with 2 purposes in mind. One, to elaborate on the significance and
importance of non-verbal communication, and 2nd, to show why such communication
is vital in any presentation or plea, or any other use of communication. In
particular, why non-verbal language was and is vital to the interests of Alisa
and Gabriel, the 2 children kidnapped by the UK government, because of squealing
on a Satanic cult the kids were forced to participate in, which included rape
and prostitution of the 2, and other horrific treatment as well.
|The following quotes were from a recently published book
(2014), "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk,
M.D., long a practitioner in the Boston, Mass. area as are 2 or 3 more
notable practitioners and 1 artificial intelligence expert (Marvin
Minski of MIT) who also gets mention in this book. The book reveals
foundation underpinnings of psychology and some of the more promising
and recent therapies discovered. For this article, my main concern is
non-verbal human expression.
This book shows a lot of underpinnings behind therapies and a variety of differing therapies that have prove very effective for some people. This is a great overview of psychology as it stand in 2014, year of publishing.
pg. 298 of his book:
I was fascinated. People process spatial relations with the right hemisphere of the brain, and our neuroimaging research had shown that the imprint of trauma is principally on the right hemisphere as well (see chapter 3). Caring, disapproval, and indifference all are primarily conveyed by facial expression, tone of voice, and physical movements. According to recent research, up to 90 percent of human communication occurs in the nonverbal, right-hemisphere realm,' and this was where Pesso's work seemed primarily to be directed. As the workshop went on, I was also struck by how the contact person's presence seemed to help Nancy tolerate the painful experiences she was dredging up.
>> Can you grasp the significance of this? If you were to give a presentation to an audience, near to 90% of your presentation comes from your non-verbal expressions. Your words are only worth 10%. Words are far more effective when they harmonize with the non-verbal, rather than contradict it. Let me show you!<<
on pg. 236 he states:
Since then neuroscience research has
shown that we possess two distinct forms of self-awareness:
one that keeps track of the self across time and,
one that registers the self in the present moment.
The first, our autobiographical self, creates connections among experiences and assembles them into a coherent story. This system is rooted in language. Our narratives change with the telling, as our perspective changes and as we incorporate new input.
The other system, moment-to-moment self-awareness, is based primarily in physical sensations, but if we feel safe and are not rushed, we can find words to communicate that experience as well. These two ways of knowing are localized in different parts of the brain that are largely disconnected from each other. Only the system devoted to self-awareness, which is based in the medial prefrontal cortex, can change the emotional brain.
In the groups I used to lead for
veterans, I could sometimes see these two systems working side by side.
The soldiers told horrible tales of death and destruction, but I noticed that their bodies often simultaneously radiated a sense of pride and belonging.
Similarly, many patients tell me about the happy families they grew up in while their bodies are slumped over and their voices sound anxious and uptight.
One system creates a story for public consumption, and if we tell that story often enough, we are likely to start believing that it contains the whole truth. But the other system registers a different truth: how we experience the situation deep inside. It is this second system that needs to be accessed, befriended, and reconciled.
>>In essence, what comes out of our mouth is not always the truth. Our non-verbal expressions may reveal a much different situation. The non-verbal will usually be the more honest of the two. The non-verbal is part of that moment to moment self-awareness system. It does not use language as as primary tool. Feelings are a large part of that system.<<
LANGUAGE: MIRACLE AND TYRANNY on pg. 241 >>
Another aspect of Pennebaker's studies caught my attention: When his subjects talked about intimate or difficult issues, they often changed their tone of voice and speaking style. The differences were so striking that Pennebaker wondered if he had mixed up his tapes.
For example, one woman described her plans for the day in a childlike, high-pitched voice, but a few minutes later, when she described stealing one hundred dollars from an open cash register, both the volume and pitch of her voice became so much lower that she sounded like an entirely different person.
Alterations in emotional states were also reflected in the subjects' handwriting. As participants changed topics, they might move from cursive to block letters and back to cursive; there were also variations in the slant of the letters and in the pressure of their pens.
Such changes are called
"switching" in clinical practice, and we see them often in individuals
with trauma histories.
Patients activate distinctly different emotional and physiological states as they move from one topic to another.
Switching manifests not only as remarkably different vocal patterns but also
pg. 242 >>
in different facial expressions and body movements. Some patients even appear to change their personal identity, from timid to forceful and aggressive or from anxiously compliant to starkly seductive. When they write about their deepest fears, their handwriting often becomes more childlike and primitive.
If patients who present in such dramatically different states are treated as fakes, or if they are told to stop showing their unpredictably annoying parts, they are likely to become mute. They probably will continue to seek help, but after they have been silenced they will transmit their cries for help not by talking but by acting: with suicide attempts, depression, and rage attacks. As we will see in chapter 17, they will improve only if both patient and therapist appreciate the roles that these different states have played in their survival.
>>What I note in the above, 241/242, is that in many ways, we are, at any given moment, a different person from one sequence to the next. Different modes for different situations. We can see some similarities between these switches and a more extreme version experienced by those programmed to be mind-control agents for various secret government operations in various nations. They have far more extreme change and changes in mental resources accessed as well, but we all adapt to various situations with a variety of possibilities. and in doing so, our non-verbal expressions are the most predominant component, affecting our emotions and causing us to appear sometimes as different people.
Age Regression is often accomplished this way.Ever seen a kid act like a baby? Actually, I think adults do it, too ;-) What is most important to grasp is that all the manifested expressions are perhaps the most important part. Yes, more important than the words, which might betray dishonesty, or doubt, or other conflicting messages. As well, the words might be reinforced and fortified by non-verbal stuff.
If the 2 sets of expression are united, it can be a very powerful convincing testimony or presentation. Remember that!<<
LEARNING ABOUT EMDR
Maggie had been referred to a therapy group I was running for women with similar problems. During her second meeting she told us that her father had raped her twice, once when she was five years old and once when she was seven. She was convinced it had been her fault. She loved her daddy, she explained, and she must have been so seductive that he could not control himself. Listening to her I thought, "She might not blame her father, but she sure is blaming just about everybody else"—including her previous therapists for not helping her get better. Like many trauma survivors, she told one story with words and another in her actions, in which she kept replaying various aspects of her trauma.
I kept this picture a little bigger than most on this site so you could clearly identify it. P A Levine was and is a Boston Mass USA doctor who has interacted, at the very least, with Van Der Kolk. In the near area also is MIT brain/AI wiz, Marvin Minski, who is also covered some in Van Der Kolk's book. But enough on that and that I live just 2 hours from all this and had no idea till 2105.
Levine's book is already amazing and I have barely started to read it at 48 pages. Levine is a lot like Dr. Janov, accept that I think Levine has surpassed Janov, quite possibly. But Janov was onto much of this much earlier in the 60s. But Levine taken another step.
Trauma as the cause of debilitating PTSD has gained critical mass among lay people and growing. Trauma can be released and healing become a reality. Levine has taken a better, more detailed approach to this. He has avcned this more, something Janov complains others are not doing. But this is not true any longer and has actually been invalidated by others as well since the early 90s. They just don't call it Primal Pain or Primal Therapy and that is a good thing.
Levine shows that psychological injuries are sustained by the body and that healing is accomplished thru the body. This is becoming accepted widely by a number of various body therapy practitioners now. And nonverbal expression is seen a key to this healing as it is needed and used to track down the injuries to be healed.
In order to treat a patient, the one treating has to be fairly healed and sensitive to nonverbal cues. To help the patient at the right time and in the right way, one has to see and recognize the signs and respond correctly so as to be able to aid the patient in whatever way needed by comforting the patient, or guiding the patient, and giving the patient an anchor to hold onto while being immersed in a desperate memory that makes its way into the conscious mind for integration. Such therapy does not appear to be something one can do on their own. We all need a human helping hand, when all appears hopeless in a feeling rising into consciousness from long ago.
So below are a few small critical pieces of his book that highlight the power and necessity of nonverbal expression. Why? Because to this very day, most do not know about it or understand it much, if at all. This stuff was old hat to me in the 80s, beginning with research on brain hemispheres getting lots of attention in the early 80s, I think it was. So here we go! These are all from the above book pictured, "In An Unspoken Voice," that is, nonverbal!
Over my lifetime, as well as in writing this book, I have attempted to bridge the vast chasm between the day-to-day work of the clinician and the findings of various scientific disciplines, particularly ethology, the study of animals in their natural environments. This vital field reached a pinnacle of recognition in 1973 when three ethologists--Nikolaas Tinbergen, Konrad Lorenz and Karl von Frisch—shared the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine.*
* Tinbergen's was for his study of animals in their natural environments, Lorenz's for his study of imprinting and Von Frisch's for his study of how the dance of honey bees communicates the location of pollen to the rest of the hive.
All three of these scientists utilized patient and precise observation to study how animals express and communicate through their bodies.
Direct body communication is something that we reasoning, language-based human animals do as well. Despite our apparent reliance on elaborate speech, many of our most important exchanges occur simply through the "unspoken voice" of our body's expressions in the dance of life. The deciphering of this nonverbal realm is a foundation of the healing approach that I present in this book.
>>Did you just get all that above? Let me reprint it for you, please. many of our most important exchanges occur simply through the "unspoken voice" of our body's expressions. See what I mean? How many know that? Oh, wait! I am not done! The deciphering of this nonverbal realm is a foundation of the healing approach that I present in this book. That is why you need to buy and read this book. I know most of humanity will ignore it and suffer dramatically as as result. But you're smarter than that, aren't you? I know you are !!!<<
To convey the nature and transmutation of trauma in the body, brain and psyche, I have also drawn upon selected findings in the neurosciences. It is my conviction that clinical, naturalistic animal studies and comparative brain research can together greatly contribute to the evolution of methodologies that help restore resilience and promote self-healing. Toward this end, I will explain how our nervous system has evolved a hierarchical structure, how these hierarchies interact, and how the more advanced systems shut down in the face of overwhelming threat, leaving brain, body and psyche to their more archaic functions. I hope to demonstrate how successful therapy restores these systems to their balanced operation. An unexpected side effect of this approach is what might be called "Awakening the Living, Knowing Body." I will discuss how this awakening describes, in essence, what happens when animal instinct and reason are brought together, giving us the opportunity to become more whole human beings.
>>Oh, there is so much in the above paragraph. Peter (Levine if you forgot) has gathered all sorts of data from those studying animal psychology and behavior. This adds a lot to figuring humans out as well, since in many ways, we are not all that different from animals. I remember our dog's reactions to gunfire, firecrackers, and thunder. She would tremble and shiver for 5-15 minutes and we could not soothe her. But there was a reason for it. Mystery solved. You'll have to read the book ;-)
Point 2, trauma and its manifest screwed up thinking can be cured, fixed, eliminated, changed, healed. A miracle, right? Wrong! It just requires understanding if we are willing to take the time and effort. I know, you want angels to come down out of heaven and cure you, but the good side is that you can do it yourself with just a little help. God gave us brains to use to help ourselves more. Lets take advantage of that, right?
OK, now the last thing. Animal instinct, which we sort of all have, is brought together with reason, not apart from reason, as Janov seems to sort of suggest, though he might disagree. We have an intellectual capacity by the will of God, says I! God gave it to us for a reason. The intellect is vital, if we are to resemble God in any way. It has a practical use as well, in day to day life. If Peter L. does not get to it, I will. You can count on that. But he does have an answer to healing and it heavily involved nonverbal. I add one more paragraph to help Dr. Levine spread his wonderful message.<<
pg 11 cont:
I aim to speak to the therapists who seek a better understanding of the roots of trauma in brain and body—such as psychological, psychiatric, physical, occupational and "bodywork" therapists. I also hope to reach the many medical doctors who are confounded by patients presenting inexplicable and mutable symptoms, the nurses who have long worked on the frontlines caring for terrified, injured patients and the policy makers concerned with our nation's problematic healthcare.
Finally, I look for the larger audience of voracious readers of a wide variety of subjects—ranging from adventure, anthropology, biology, Darwin, neuroscience, quantum physics, string theory, relativity and zoology to the "Science" section of the New York Times.
The Self-Regulating, Self-Knowing Body
In spite of my confusion and disorientation after the crosswalk accident, it was my thoroughly ingrained knowledge of trauma that led me first to request that the off-duty paramedic back off and allow me some space, and then to trust my body's involuntary shaking and other spontaneous physical and emotional reactions. However, even with my extensive knowledge and experience, I doubt whether I could have done this alone. The importance of the graceful pediatrician's quiet support was enormous.
Her noninvasive warmth, expressed in the calm tone of her voice, her gentle eyes, her touch and scent, gave me enough of a sense of safety and protection to allow my body to do what it needed to do and me to feel what I needed to feel. Together, my knowledge of trauma and the support of a calm present other allowed the powerful and profoundly restorative involuntary reactions to emerge and complete themselves.
>>I want to make some points here. Although Peter was an experienced doctor of psychology, directly involved with trauma treatment, in the shock of being hit by a vehicle, his mind was in shock as well as his body. Despite all he knew, it did not matter. He still needed someone to comfort him and let him know he was OK. Without knowing and without feeling it on an instinctive level, his instinctive brain needed an assurance that the cortex thinking brain could not supply. That brain was out of commission and the primitive instinct brain had taken complete control due to it being a crisis that possibly could be deadly.
The conscious thinking brain might have been able to observe, but it had no real control. We know we have two different systems operating at the same time, so says Van Der Kolk. But in a crisis, there is only 1 in charge. Its not the verbal!
And you'll note the very caring and empathetic nature of the woman who helped Peter. When the primitive brain takes over, it needs assurance and the thinking brain is blocked out. Any message to be given must be done so thru the nonverbal primitive "sub-conscious." Hence the woman's kindness as expressed in nonverbal ways to the nonverbal brain, put the instinctive brain at ease and may have allowed Peter to gain some important use of his conscious thinking brain.
But now I will ask, in a crisis, what is the only sort of communication that works or gets thru? Class? Its the nonverbal instinctive system! What if your are trying to get thru to your child on something? What would be the most effective form of communication, especially if the instinctive brain is resisting you? Class? That's right! The nonverbal instinctive system.
It was the first system to go online when you were developing in the womb. And it has never gone off-line since. It is the part that never sleeps. When you were a baby, that part of the brain was all you had to share with mommy. Her tone of voice, her cuddling, her gazes into your eyes, and just being close to her and in her presence, just as you were when in her womb, right? For most things, when everything else breaks down, you still got the nonverbal instinct there. It is designed for a crisis as you will see some more to follow.<<
pg 13 cont:
In general, the capacity for self-regulation is what allows us to handle our own states of arousal and our difficult emotions, thus providing the basis for the balance between authentic autonomy and healthy social engagement. In addition, this capacity allows us the intrinsic ability to evoke a sense of being safely "at home" within ourselves, at home where goodness resides.
>>I noticed that when I commented after pasting a paragraph or two, I ended up saying what was similar to what was to follow. Well, at least repetition won't hurt. Sorry about that! Above, normally we can handle stuff thrown at us. But Below, when we can't, we got the "MasterCard" of a brain, the instinct, to pick up the slack.<<
This capacity is especially important when we are frightened or injured. Most every mother in the world, knowing this instinctively, picks up her frightened child and soothes him or her by rocking and holding the child close to her body. Similarly, the kind eyes and pleasant scent of the woman who sat by my side bypassed the rational frontal cortex to reach directly into the recesses of my emotional brain. Thus, it soothed and helped to stabilize my organism just enough so that I could experience the difficult sensations and take steps toward restoring my balance and equanimity.
>>Do remember that I have been reading Janov since 1987 to the present and I read Van Der Kolk before this and "Breaking the Circle of Satanic Ritual Abuse" before that. I have this thing down pretty well. I have understood the difference between verbal and nonverbal a long time. I'll tell you a story about that after I am done with Peter Levine's book here.
Next to follow, we jump to page 44 of Levine's book for a wonderful explanation of the contrast between verbal/intellectual operations and nonverbal instinctive operations. It is about the best there is, although I have written quite a bit about in when criticizing Janov some. Marvin Minsk also has a lot to say on this subject, too. So we got lots of ideas to help us get at the truth and correctness of these matters.
My point in writing, using V. D. Kolk and P. Levine is that these are recent readings so that I could make direct quotes from. If I had to go back to the 80s to get the old stuff I read, I would have a tough job of going thru all that to get what I want. These here are recent reads, so that I could scan as I read and prove what I say and have long said.<<
Gelder's research shows the power of fearful postures in activating specific areas of an observer's brain—areas that happy and neutral postures leave inactive.* In addition, these brain regions, stimulated by the recognition of frightened body stances, are further differentiated from regions involved in the reading of fearful faces. Postural recognition centers include multiple brain regions, some that process emotions and others that primarily prepare us for action. According to Gelder, "You could almost say that when you see a fearful body you react with your whole body."
This observation supports the
basic Darwinian tenet that the human ability to rapidly read bodies and to
respond both unequivocally and instantaneously is highly advantageous.
Reading others' bodies predisposes us to actions that increase our chances of survival.
In order to be effective and immediate, such postural resonance bypasses the conscious mind.
>>Now courts and prevailing opinions say that to show the face of a child, or play a recording of their voice, is a crime against them. To the contrary, a child's facial expressions, voice mannerisms and inflections, posture, and other nonverbal expressions are far more effective than the verbal language which could be printed in text form. Real and true honest law requires that all accused and all witnesses and all plaintiffs must appear in court, without disguise and without changing their real name, and must take an oath to tell the truth. I do not think an oath should matter and that truth will be expected and if any should later be found to be lying, then a severe punishment should be prescribed and carried out. Lying under oath is done all the time now.
But if a child were to accuse in court, or be accused, his/her best defense or offense is to allow their nonverbal expressions full expression. A child telling the truth will be quite obvious as will lying. A sincere and strong emotional outburst, from say, a child who accuses someone of raping them, should be fairly convincing. But to have a statement read, purporting to be from the child, and all that nonverbal left out, would nearly nullify the cold blank statement. It will not have any serious impact on a jury, especially if the accused is a sociopathic liar who puts on a dramatic show.
Nonverbal bypasses the conscious verbal reasoning mind, which few use anyway, and goes right to the emotions and instinct that most run on. Most advertisers write and produce commercials and ads that also try to target our deep feelings, and touch off desire or other feelings that have more power to motivate than an intellect does. There are only a few who used their intellectual powers so these are of no concern. In fact, truth be told, most advertisers do not aim at intellectuals since these are often hard or impossible to influence. Intellectuals do not run on instinctive or emotional programming.
But do not confuse a real intellectual with the so called intellectuals of, say, a university. These are not real intellectuals, but pseudo-intellectuals who promote "ideas" that are politically motivated and not derived from pure objective thought. Pure objective critical thinkers seldom fall prey to advertising garbage.
If we want to get a message of any sort across, we need to be in good psychological condition so that our nonverbal will represent us well to an audience.<<
pg 44 cont:
Rational deliberation could compromise survival by confusing and slowing us down. Survival reactions under threatening circumstances generally need to be swift and sure, not pondered. According to researchers Rizzolatti and Sinigaglia, "our perceptions of the motor acts and emotive reactions [italics mine] of others appear to be united by a mirror mechanism that permits our brain to immediately understand what we are seeing, feeling, or imagining others to be doing, as it triggers the same neural structures ... that are responsible for our own actions and emotions."16
>>Words without genuine body language and other nonverbal expressions will often miss most people who run on autopilot anyway. This is why videos are often superior to voice recordings or printed text. An energetic enthusiastic verbal or visual-verbal presentation will be far easier to follow and respond to. but printed only as words, it will lose much of its impact. Try this! Watch a few Tony Robbins videos on Youtube. Then read one of his books. You will notice the difference right away.<<
Had our neocortical (thinking) brain preempted our instinctual lower (action-based) circuitry, you might have an inner dialogue something like this: "That guy's jaw and shoulders look tight and angry as he comes near. His eyes are shifty ... but his shirt—well, it's certainly a pleasant color and looks like the one I almost bought at Macy's." While your
survival "bottom-up" processing center is alerting your body (Avoid this guy, period—no discussion!), your "top-down" processing is meandering through a much slower language-based analysis.
Just like the gazelles, humans are acutely attuned to danger and prepared to act decisively to meet it. The posture, gestures and facial expressions of people tell the untold tale of what did and did not happen when threatened and overwhelmed. Habitual postures tell us what paths need to be retraced and resolved.
In order to facilitate bottom-up processing, therapists need to have a precise feel for the instinctual imperative that was thwarted in their client at a moment of overwhelming fright. The traumatized body-mind was, in other words, poised in readiness but failed to fully orchestrate its meaningful course of action. As in my accident (Chapter 1) we have to help clients discover just where in her body she readied for action, and which action had been blocked in its execution.
>>The two children called among other things, the "Hampstead Whistleblowers" due to exposing what a Satanic cult had been doing to them and other kids, also known as the "Hampstead cover-up," which took place in Hampstead, London, UK; these two had a number of videos taken of their testimony.
Now imagine you are the therapist, or, you are someone trying to discern if the kids are telling the truth. How would you tell? You would need to see the full video revelations, showing faces, bodies for gestures and posture, voices for hearing inflections, tones, emphasis and much more. With the unaltered videos you get very convincing evidence if you are objectve and not a cult member of one of the members of the vast network of Satanist pedophiles that exist in all aspects of society now. They own the world just as God had said thru John - 1 John 5:19; Rev. 12:9; Rev. 16:14.
Now the mom was upset that the videos had gotten onto the internet unedited showing the kids and their voices. Mom believes the lies of the devil and the world who do not want you to hear the kids or see their pleading faces. Mom obviously cares about them but she does not understand the importance of nonverbal expression and its vital important to her 2 children and the overall cause. I would assume that if she read this article, maybe she would have a change of heart.
But as I see it, this case has the marking of Divine Providence on it. It is special, unique, and exceptional, by any measure that I could possibly comprehend. That being the case, I assume God's Providence saw to it that the videos came out unedited for the benefit of the children and much more as well. Sometimes we need to trust God in that He will see to the important things and make things work out. So however the videos made it out onto the internet, I would suggest that it was Divine Providence acting on someone somehow or that God foresaw that decision by that person and did not interfere or let anyone else interfere.
If it can ever be established for sure who did it or if they even intended to do it, that person's actions were justified and correct, and possibly even Divinely influenced. My personal opinion is that someone perhaps deserves far more credit (and without condemnation or prosecution) than has been given at this point. Maybe even a medal, a parade, and a large compensation settlement for service in behalf of the kids, A & G. And if it was an unintended accident, then We must all think God for His wisdom and kindness in looking out for those kids.<<
pg 45 cont:
Other research confirms the pertinence of instantaneous body reading. A recent study carried out by the U.S. Army suggests that the speed with which the brain reads emotions in the body language of others and interprets sensations in one's own body is central to avoiding imminent threats like hidden booby traps, who might be carrying a hidden bomb or who had recently buried one." In this same article, the neurologist Antonio Damasio adds that "emotions are practical action programs that work to solve a problem, often before we're conscious of it. These processes are at work continually, in pilots, leaders of expeditions, parents, in all of us."
Therapeutic approaches that neglect the body, focusing mainly on thoughts (top-down processing), will consequently be limited. I propose instead that, in the initial stages of restorative work, bottom-up processing needs to be standard operating procedure. In other words, addressing a client's "bodyspeak" first and then, gradually, enlisting his or her emotion, perception and cognition is not merely valuable, it's essential. The "talking cure" for trauma survivors should give way to the unspoken voice of the silent, but strikingly powerful, bodily expressions as they surface to "sound off" on behalf of the wisdom of the deeper self.
>>Would you not agree that between Kolk and Levine, we have heard powerful evidence for understanding nonverbal human expression and its vast importance in therapy, in presentation, in trials, or in anything else in life. We need to become far more sensitive and alert to nonverbal signals and expressions.<<
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This is an example of both uninformed and not all that bright conspiracy researchers, and of the gullible masses who do not know much about nonverbal expression. I call the host/writer/editor/gatekeeper/censor Jax as a truncation of her screen name plus axe. You can fill in the rest. A video tape was released of the 3rd interview with police and Alisa, with the view of the interviewer (Steve Martin) instead of Alisa. It was very revealing.
While Alisa spoke in a downtrodden voice quite unlike her two previous interviews, Steve Martin was experiencing two very different things in his mind. His voice was calm and focused as it had always been. But what we would have never known without the camera pointed at him, was that his legs and hands were going crazy. He was really agitated in a big way.
That title or phrase that accompanied this video was suggesting a secret sign language guiding Alisa's every word. I laughed like hell. This was one of those Arendale specials. And Jax loved Arendal ideas. As far as I am concerned, Arendale was a disinformation agent who tried to make Jax and company look like idiots, which was not hard thing to so, by any means. Arendale suggested the secret sign language. Jax ate it right up. I suggested that his nonverbal suggested great agitation and that something bothering him a big way. Further, I suggested that a complicate language learned in a week was not realistic and that further, with hypnotic programming, she could have remembered all the answers and would not need direction or guidance. Besides, her voice never altered or paused and his gestures did not convey anything that could be relevant to what she was saying.
Arendale won out over me with Jax and maybe some others. But she (Arendale) obviously was not into truth telling or science. And it was a "she," I assure you.
Jax later reposted it and I added more info or added some of the above. But it got deleted, too. Just too sensible for Jax to comprehend. She liked the conspiratorial flavor of secret signs. There were and are a lot of kooks in this case. It was reposted and third time and deleted again. Its gone now and I do not know if Jax keeps this or not. But you will not likely ever see it again. You might want to email or post at her website and ask for a copy. I doubt she will give you one.
Jax does not have a good science background. On the other hand, while I have no degree, I have pursue psychology with passion since 1983. I know my stuff more than most. I have done history research, doctrinal research, legal research, conspiracy research! I know good rules and procedure to follow. Jax has none of this. She has helpers but with her in charge, it leaves a lot to be desired. I have dealt with her privately which is how I saw the other side of Jax that no one else does. Lets just say I am unimpressed and to be just frank, a total bitch and a bit on the deceptive side, too. I don't trust her at all, but you can do as you please.
But a person in her position does merit a higher degree of accountability when issues affect the entire cause and its credibility, too. Nor should she be making decisions for other people and appointing herself as their protector and "keeping them safe." So she sheltered her flock from disagreements.
Real Research, like here at Truth1, involves reading, quoting, providing evidence/proof, and enabling a better understanding to readers. Don't believe it because I say it. Ask me for evidence, and I might be able top come up with it quickly, or I might need to wait a while as I did by reading these 2 books and passing on what I had known previously from my 1980s readings, when I was not writing, but learning, and kept no notes or records, except in my head and heart.
In any research, you need evidence. Arendale never had any references or logic, either. Yet no one noticed! That does not speak well for the audience. I find that most people are just followers and not thinkers with their own minds, testing things. The shepherds among us are few and most leaders are wolves instead or (Hampstead). The vast majority by far, are sheep and followers without capacity to question. Its like that, everywhere.
Just another example or two to show the sheep. I had made a point about cults having unwritten but very important rules, like marrying another cult member (or at least breeding with a family member) to keep the kids under total control. Arendale disagreed and said cults varied quite a bit and that there was no common type or standard rules. I am not sure I even bothered with her. I knew the score, however. The Hampstead cult had plenty of rules carefully kept and such as a locked fridge with baby meat, and keys for almost everything. Very little rules were very important. It was a tightly run ship.
Kathleen Sullivan was a mind-controlled assassin raised in a cult. Every little thing had a purpose and reason. And breaking a rule could lead to death. for instance, if you or anyone were to show a little kindness or decency, you could end up being killed, with the one who you showed kindness to, being forced to be the one who killed you. Cults take rules very seriously and they got lots of them.
But then after Arendale made her declaration, say a month or two later, I read "Breaking the Circle of Satanic Ritual Abuse," By Daniel Ryder, which made it clear that cults did have 3 main variants and that incest was common to have more kids or you marry within the cult. Yes, just as I had said. Arendale actually knew better, I am sure. But she was there to make the dumb look even dumber. It worked ;-)
Arendale was frequently trying to discredit what I posted. That is what a shill does. But she always ended up wrong either with me refuting her or later finding the material to refute her idiocy with. If you want good reliable research, Hampstead Research would be a good place to stay away from. She likes to haunt social sites, but good honest science? Not likely. I could tell you a lot more about Arendale. Its a very interesting story, but I'll spare you and spare me some typing. Arendale was running another forum in another name. Then about May, or June, an Asher Arendale suddenly appears on facebook with the same picture that our Arendale used at HR of a lion at ease. A black guy with sunglasses, his only picture for his page. He living in the south with no black friends out of 66 friends and only the 1 picture with sunglasses. And 5 or 6 friends involved with a facebook forum (run by "Angeline Flowers-Dizzy") which friends had only recently joined. "Angeline" was very good friends with Arendale. Soul sisters, really! Angeline just loves attention and socializing, anyway. That is, there was no history of friends during the Feb to May escapades of the Hampstead Cover-up. Feb to May was when Arendale was posting at HR all the time and knew people. Nothing matches up. I saw a picture of a guy with Asher "Arendale's" face shape and no sunglasses who had just got out of the marines recently back in June or July. His face picture offered an invite or friend to consider. I should have screen saved it.
The real "Arendale" does not want you to know who she is. I find that most interesting. Jax is a lot like that, too. And I think Jax uses a lot of IDs on wordpress and youtube, whether she denies it or not. She likes to hide and is very evasive. That is not a good trait. What is she hiding? She ended up offending many people and considered a traitor by most of those. I was the only one to see her at her worst and no one else saw because she did it all in secret, deleting anything I posted and telling lies about me to "Arendale." But she had considered Arendale a shill and suspicious but now they are the best of friends. Misery loves company. My own experience gives me an advantage others do not have and probably do not want, either. Most hate truth, truth be told. They just want to belong somewhere.
So when it comes to research, be picky and ask lots of questions. This arena/case brought out all kooks and shills. Most were there already in waiting, for a big event to happen by accident and needing to be covered up. Indeed it was! And it may be, that the so called supporters are part of the problem. Either corrupt or too stupid. Many opponents had existed, just waiting for directions to the next coverup. Hampstead became that coverup.
And what makes it so much tougher is that we have no nonverbal info, for the most part, unless they show themselves on Youtube as some do. Nonverbal would be very handy in this type of case/situation. This amplifies the value of nonverbal, in that its hard to tell anything about people when all their nonverbal expressions are hidden due to the anonymity of internet texting without faces and bodies of expression. But I can say that some people have a distinct way of writing and some have key phrases they use a lot. I will give no examples because I do not want those I watch to know how I recognize them.
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Most parents are unware of all the signals they give off thru their body language, facial expressions, voice inflexions, and the like. They think words solve everything. In truth, words do little. The Bible emphasizes love in 1 Corinthians 13, the "love" chapter: written by Paul. Love is holding, cuddling, taking in warm soothing tones, and being very considerate of another's feelings. Kids know when their feelings are being slighted. I will give you 2 or 3 personal examples for which I declare that there are no brats in life. Only bad parents that cause kids to act like brats, but who on the inside, are little angels. Bare with me.
In the religion I had belonged to prior to this year, 1993, I had many relationships with various ages of kids. "Tony" was near to eleven when I first met him. He got into trouble with drugs and writing bad checks and ended up in prison for a year and had some weekend furloughs allowed and had to be near a phone to prove his whereabouts. I was the one he wanted to see the most. While there at his brothers, I met the 2 girls, 4 and 6 I think. They were a little cautious the first time, while Tony's sister's daughter, 7, went nuts over me. It had to be nonverbal because I do not know what I did to cause it. But the next visit, the 2 others suddenly took a liking to me. I was generally playful.
Tony was on the phone with a possible (he was hoping) girlfriend from our religion of the past. Knowing this would be awhile, I took the 2 girls to the woods right newt to their rented house. they were having a ball. Then they started to go quiet discuss why their dad never did this with them. You could sense that it bothered them more than a little. I had provided a contrast that began to make them aware there were other types of men and possible dads. The oldest, 6, acted like a brat to her father. There was resentment and frustration on her part toward her dad, who was quite aloof and emotionally unavailable. We will call her Tracy.
But as Tracy got a feel for me, something weird took place. She became very different with me than with dad. She spoke respectfully, nicely. I had not asked her to do so. And then even later that day, she starts to talk to me in a very quiet, low volume gentle voice that I could barely hear. She wanted to see if I would take the effort to still listen to her, which I did. She was testing me and seeing who far I'd go. All I can say is that this was no little brat by any sense of that word. She was fully capable of the utmost sweetness and niceness. In fact, due to the contrast, she may have been more responsive to me than anyone else since I gave her far more than anyone else.
The point here is that this was all nonverbal stuff, making are more impact
than any words. I find that kids love to have adults show them attention and
play with them, anyway. That alone will open all sorts of doors. Parents do not
understand this very valuable info. Play is like lots of hugs and affection. The
kids associate play with fun and if you're the one playing then the fun is
associated with you. Your influence will be far more powerful as a result.
My 2nd example was a boy of 4, across the street from us, and down a house or 2, a fairly recent arrival to the street. I and the young adult males and Wendel's 12 year old brother were playing roller hockey with a full size net. Unware to us, this boy had been watching us and evidently drooling. It looked fun and he wanted in on it. So his parents had bought him a small plastic hockey stick. Their car pulled into their yard and this 4 year old boy comes charging over to us all excited, stick in hand. Well, there was no way I was going to turn that away. We would crushed him. So we mixed him.
But when it was time to go in after that and subsequent times, he would put up a fit. He did not want to stop. This was heaven as far as he was concerned. These were his feelings. so he protested and would not go. I stepped in and said I would gladly be there tomorrow for him to play if he wanted. So he went in. It happened a few more times like that. He was a lot like Tracy I mentioned above. We'll call him Brad. There were times when he just did not want to go in. But if I asked him to go and that I would be there the next day, promising, then he quietly left.
His mother would tell him anything to get him to go but he knew she never meant anything she said. He knew she was just lying to try to pacify him and it angered the hell out of him. But he knew that I never lied to him. I meant what I said. Even if he acted up, if I asked him to go, he was cease all resistance to go. He knew there would be a tomorrow. A few other kids close to about 10 maybe, saw this and decided they would try it, too. They quickly picked up my reliable honesty, too. If they asked to play, they would bring up that I said they could if we were out. They had the sense that I would honor my words.
So the "brat" Brad, putting up a terrible about having to go in, became obedient and respectful to me and never gave me crap. He then took up ice skating lessons for hockey at maybe 5 or 6. By the way, his dad was also emotionally removed and distant. So Brad wanted me to come see him skate and I sense it was important to him so I said I would. that Saturday, I was a slow and late getting going and ended up about 15 minutes late. Just arriving and high up in back of the bleachers and chairs, I saw Brad down on the ice looking lost and dejected. I forget if I called out or he just happened to look up and notice as I waved. His face lit up like an Xmas tree and he took off across the ice at full speed. Suddenly, he had come to life. I was the dad he really wanted. He just wanted someone to care about him.
My presence, my play, keeping my word, my voice always warm and welcome, and always making accommodation for him, these are the things, the actions, and not the words, that made a difference.
Two more to go! I can tell you're convinced yet ;-) I loves sports. Could not get enough. I would sometimes pick up two teen boys from our "church" to play touch football, or skiing, softball, or whatever. I also shared my electric guitar with them and other teens. They had 3 younger sisters, 10, 7, and 3. They would show me stuff they made or colored and were playing with. Sometimes I would spend a few minutes with them. You would not think that a few minutes here or there would make much of an impact. But they loved it whenever I came over. I might color a page in one of their coloring books or help them put beads together for jewelry or whatever. But it was the 3 year old that was most interesting. To her, my presence always meant fun and excitement.
So my father had bought something that came in a big box. Me and my brother loved big boxes. We'd cut out a door and windows. It was fun for a week before it was beaten to death. So I took this box and brought it over the girls and see the guys. The girls went nuts. I was the big bad wolf and they had to hide in the box house. But after this, the 3 year old was always following me and inviting me to her house. I doubt she ever asked her parents about it. One time she heard me discussing a kid's TV show, which had been on when I was a kid. I mentioned a type of scene common to this show.
The 3 year old took it all in, but I had no clue she was. I was there another time weeks later and the show was on again, and the 3 year old pointed at it and said look, and it was that typical scene. She heard what I had 1st said, understood it and remembered it. What I said was important to her. She was listening to quite a bit. She was always the 1st one at the door when I came over. And she wanted right up in my arms. She was adorable. But what I learned most was that if you were associated with play and fun, kids would listen to your every word or damn near it. Even at 3! It was showing a little bit of interest in them that did it. Even Sarah, the 7 year old, would draw picture and give them to me. They shower you with whatever it is they relate to. Parents need to play with and give lots of attention to their kids. There is no substitute for time with them. And if you sincerely like them, they will love you. Parents, you have it easy if you want it.
The last account. I worked for member of the church, who ran a cleaning business. I'd come over this his house every week to get my check. He had a 4 year old boy, "Sonny." I would stop for a few minutes and play with him and his toys. He had an "Alf" doll. Alf was a comical alien in a TV series hiding out with a family. Alf's legs would move if you knew how to maneuver him right. He seemed to come to life. I'd make the doll chase Sonny and he had a ball. We'd play with various toys. He'd follow behind me imitate whatever I said or did with the characters in his toys.
He began to have me read him books. Sometimes we might go outside briefly, with him on my shoulders or playing on the swing set. But what amazed me most was the book reading. He'd get in my lap and I would read and he would push his head back into my chest and roll it back and forth against my chest a few times. He seemed like he was in heaven or getting high.
His parents told me that when they went to church (JWs call them kingdom halls) Sonny would tell everyone there about me and our adventures and that I was his best friend. They all knew me since the 2 congregations used to be one before growth forced a "colony." A "cancer" might be a better word, in retrospect. But all this because I played with him a little and brought fun into his life. That became the most important thing in his life.
I think few adults remember how boring and even lonely life can be for a small child. Sonny was an only child. Check day was the highlight of his week.
So what am I getting at? Look how easy it is to please kids and make them very happy. They will shower you with some sort of affection. There was hardly a kid in the church who was not nuts about me. But I remembered the boredom of life as a kid. But as well, I know that parents there did not spend time with their kids. That is why the kids adored me. I gave them the high they craved. It was never words, or seldom words. It was actions, time, concern, gentleness, respect. how you treated them was far more important than any words.
This is the genius of nonverbal. It is powerful and extremely effective. And there is no substitute for it. TV has no power in the presence of nonverbal attention. And even your words can take on great importance if there is lots of nonverbal reinforcement.
I could have written a book on the experiences I have had with kids. They were my teachers and I learned from them all the time. The few above should suffice.
But this does not just work on kids. It works works on animals. It works on adults, too. Nonverbal is a way of life and living. It is relating to the sub-conscious rather than the intellect. An intellect works best when the inner mind, the sub-conscious, is at peace.
As you saw in the 2 doctors of psychological therapy, the nonverbal approach is the most effective one. I have been applying it since about 1980, though I got to know it better since about 1983.
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Cults know better than most how nonverbal humans are. They "condition" their members to respond without question and to ignore cries and screams, and dish out pain and nastiness.
Consider what Alisa and Gabriel went thru. They hated what was done to them. It cause loads of anger and resentment and tantrums as a result. This treatment also causes most in their situation to feel unimportant or even useless and unworthy of love and caring. How does one undo this?
It will be thru nonverbal treatment whereby you show high regard and respect for what they want, giving it at least a much consideration as what you want. And slowly, you condition them the exact opposite of what the cult did.
Of course, there is more to it than that, but all that therapy stuff is basically applying nonverbal treatment to patients.
In all aspects of our life, we need to consider how we affect people's feelings, their emotions. Words can help, but often its the nonverbal stuff like the caring gaze, the warmth of the voice, posture, etc.
I learned a lesson or two from Caesar Milan, the Dog Whisperer of the National Geographic channel, which we once got thru cable TV back in the 90s. In order to get thru to a dog, you had to get them into the right mindset. Caesar always told dog owners to be calm and assertive. Calm goes a long way to help. Warmth is good, too. Considerate always works.
These are what love is really about. Actions more than words.
But if there is one thing above all other things I want you to get out of this, it is that the most important thing Alisa and Gabriel have offer, to save and protect them, is their nonverbal expressions. Their faces and face gestures, body language and posture, voice inflections and tones, and even age and character in their voices, and changes in those as they talk. Don't take that away from them, ever. They can move hearts if you let them.
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